Rivalry among siblings
To have rivalry is human nature. This rivalry may be on different aspects of life. Sibling means brothers and sisters of same parents. Siblings also develop this sense of rivalry as they grow together. This rivalry among siblings is generally a type of competition. This sibling rivalry may include many aspects like love, affection and favor and attention from either mother or father. This rivalry may also focus on getting some recognition or gain.
The siblings develop a very strong close emotional relation with each other as they grow together in the same family. But at times they become fierce enemies. You can notice this attitude of siblings very clearly. For example
you can find that the siblings are playing very peacefully and happily at one moment, after a few moments they start fighting with each other. The children of a family normally learn how to communicate and how to cop-up with outsiders by first learning to live happily and peacefully with his/her brother or sister. A child who has siblings is given proper education regarding the general behavior with others, how to understand another person’s thinking, how to handle differences. They are also taught not demand any favors from others and how to show their love for others.
Countering Sibling Rivalry
Generally the parents will observe some sort of differences and misunderstandings between siblings. Here the role of parents become very important, this is the prime duty of parents that they should not allow the situation to go beyond a certain limit. Parents should hold meeting with children and try to find out the root cause of differences and disputes. Jealousy is one of the major causes of sibling rivalry. At times a child may think on different lines and may develop a feeling that he/she is getting less love or attention from parents than the other sibling. This feeling may develop the feeling of hostility, bitterness, unhealthy competition and low self confidence in the children. The parents have to be extra careful in this sort of situation and if this issue is not handled properly, this can have adverse effect on the emotional feelings of the entire family.
Parents can control the sense of rivalry among siblings. Many parents think that their children have enough understanding. Such parents assume that their children are aware of the fact that each of them is loved and liked by their parents equally. But this is the prime duty of parents to in calculate the feeling in the children that each of them is loved and valued by them. Parents should be careful and should not try to have comparisons among children.
Parents should organize their spare time in such a way that they are able to spend some time with each child individually, without the presence of other siblings. If the parents do not have enough time than they can meet each child on a designated day or time. If all the above mentioned timings are not suitable for the parents than they should give few minutes to each child before bedtime everyday. This all will help in making each child understand that they are special to their parents.
Parents should always keep a distance when their children are having some disputes or differences. Parents should not get indulged in any kind of arguing. The parents should interfere only when the situation is going out of hand. For example the physical safety of a child is in danger or the children are using abusive language against each other. Parents should give strict punishment to a child if the find the child guilty. This punishment should never be given in presence of the siblings, always punish the child privately.
Parents should try and develop the habit of communication in their children. Parents should give equal time to each child to tell their version of any dispute or differences. Children should be made to understand that disputes and disagreements with each other is a normal thing. But never allow them to become physical or abusive with each other.