Children with Disabilities
How to bring-up and motivate a child with disability
Irrespective of cast, community or country, parents want their baby to born healthy and remain so for their entire life. But some conditions are unavoidable and may be the desire of the God. A child may be born with a disability, or a healthy child may develop a disability due to some injury or illness is such type of unavoidable conditions which the parents have to bear. At the first instance, people get a shock on knowing this condition of a child. Temporarily this may paralyze you, prevent you from taking action, or even force you to make a wrong decision. During these difficult times you should always try to maintain your composure. It is always very helpful to take guidance from professionals and family members with experience or friends whom you trust, but always keep the right of taking a decision with you.
After some time and recovering from the shock many parents develop the feeling that their all the expectations have been shattered and they have failed as parents or they may also assume that their family have been destroyed. This brings other problems also, like uncertainty, blame or jealousy. In this situation hundreds of questions will come in the minds of the parents with very few solutions. This all can lead to an unbalanced and saddened view of the opportunities, potential, and joy that can be associated with raising a child with a disability.
However, this is a normal phase of “mourning”, which many parents of children with disabilities can experience. In case you are having all these feelings, you should always remember that you are not the first and also the last parent to feel that way and you will overcome from this. You can overcome this situation by seeking correct information, talking with friends and other people, seeking professional counseling, and, most importantly, having open discussions with all members of your immediate family. These feelings will be replaced by positive feelings with time, love, and support and you will be able to take steps to help your child.
This should not be the end of the world for you. And you should take heart from the examples of many other families which have become even stronger, more loving, and more closely knit because of a disability in the family. These families found an opportunity to work together to help their loved one, and every family member have a share in the gains of the child. The negatives connected with the up-bringing of a disabled child will not come in the mind of the parents. However, you have to make certain sacrifices, but still you will have sufficient time for your friends, family, and hobbies. After some time, you will come in terms with these sacrifices and will consider them as a part of day-to-day life, rather than an extra burden.
You should develop a positive attitude so that you can also encourage your child to take up new challenges, although you as well child is aware of the limitations. This may be a little difficult, because a disabled child will always be reluctant to participate in physical activities due to the fear of failure. Despite of all these difficulties and fears the main aim of both the child and the parent should be “have fun, and do your best. Some parents of disabled children are not able to keep their child at home due to medical reasons, but most of the parents are able to manage to keep their disabled child at home. In case you find it difficult to manage at home there are so many options are available for you that will allow you to keep a loving relationship with the child as well as maximizing appropriate care.
Motivation to succeed is the main factor of success of any family. If a child comes to know the fact that his parents will always encourage success and will not compromise on anything less than his best effort, he will get enough motivation to succeed. Such child will develop a never say die attitude and will also not settle for any failure without a fight. This will help the child in increasing and maintaining his/her self confidence.
There are many disabilities that affect children, but the constant effort should always be on trying your best. The atmosphere of warmth and support will help and motivate any disabled child to triumph over the challenge that he/her will face. Your confidence in a disabled child will help the child to have self confidence and will also make him/her strong enough to work of their own throughout the life.